Some Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know what I'm supposed to do? I'm awash in others people's opinions and ideas of what I should be doing!
There is no wrong way to have a wedding. You could have 100 friends and family come to a public park, sit on blankets surrounding you both, and have a simple ceremony - and you could skip the dinner, the tent and the reception. Or you both could get married in your best friend's living room surrounded by 10 people, and celebrate afterwards with champagne and a bbq. Or invite 300 guests, hire a Zydeco band and party all night long under a circus tent. I've organized and coordinated weddings in living rooms, state parks, backyards, mansions, barns, churches, farmers markets and country clubs. The important part is that the wedding is focused on whatever is most important to the you - be it celebrating with everyone you know and love at a giant party, or making sure we have an intimate gathering where you have time to talk and visit with each person.
How do I know if I should hire a planner?
A wedding at a courthouse probably doesn't require any extra planning assistance - but as soon as you add in different scheduled events (cocktail hour, dinner, toasts, cake cutting, dancing, etc...), other vendors (a caterer, photographer, bartender, baker, florist, DJ, musicians), and rentals (a tent, tables, chairs, plates, flatware, glasses, dance floor, lights, linens) - not to mention your own personalized decorations - it can be extremely useful to call in some extra help.
What is this "month-of planning" package all about?
We have all these other vendors - won't they be able to coordinate the event on their own?
When you plan a wedding, you hire a bunch of individual vendors who are all really great at their jobs - but my job is to take each of those separate pieces and create synergy, cooperation & flow. Every other vendor is there to provide the best service they can for their allotted task - be it music, food, photography, flowers - and I'm there to make sure they work well with each other, that the whole event goes smoothly, and that the two of you and all your guests are taken care of the entire time.
I'm also the one who's checking to see if you ate breakfast, running to the drug store to get the contact lens solution you ran out of, making sure your great-aunt is in the shade and doesn't get dehydrated in the summer heat, and getting the grease stains out of your best-man's suit jacket after he decided to eat pizza right before the photos... basically, I'm on your side, the whole time, no matter what.
My job is to support you in having a meaningful celebration where you and your partner can get married, spend time surrounded by people you love, have a lot of fun, and not feel burdened by having to manage the event.
If I hire you, will you just start telling me all these things I have to do for my wedding? Can I just have a simple party?
I'm here to empower you to say yes to the things that truly matter to you and your beloved, and to give you permission to skip the things you don't want to do. I'm happy to provide advice, but I'm not going to tell you what you should or shouldn't do.
And yes, you can have a simple party! Let's talk. A wedding doesn't have to be expensive. It doesn't have to be anything. If you want to meet a few times over coffee to figure out a game plan for a super simple ceremony & dinner with family & friends - I got you.
Or... maybe we'll go all out - I'm thinking my beloved and I will ride up on horses for the ceremony and then hire a 15 piece band and serve custom whiskey cocktails and then do an outdoor movie showing of The Princess Bride.
Yup, we can do that too. Let's talk!